Tag Archives: Thought

What dogs add to the world

8 Jan

The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue.  



 There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.  
-Ben William    

A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.  
Josh Billings         


The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.  




 If your dog is fat, you aren’t getting enough exercise    

My dog is worried about the economy because Alpo is up to $3.00 a can.
that’s almost $21.00 in dog money.
-Joe Weinstein



If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you;
that is the principal difference between a dog and a human.
-Mark Twain


Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole.  
-Roger Caras




If you think dogs can’t count,
try putting three dog biscuits in your pocket
and then give him only two of them.
-Phil Pastoret



People that have left an impression 4

8 Jan

Well,  I went on another business trip and met an interesting person.  I am not sure what to think of this one.  I have been pondering and noodling for a few weeks now.  I’m still not so sure. 

I was on a flight back home from Minot ND. Yes, Minot.  I was traveling with an associate who sat across from me.  He and I were talking back and forth, mostly just joking around.  Our business meeting went very well, and we were kind of mentally unwinding.  I was sitting next to a lady that meekly sat in her seat and didn’t say much.  She was reading a magazine and off-on sleeping.  I left her alone.

When the stewardess came by and the lady next to me purchased a little bottle of wine.  I was still chatting with my co-worker and didn’t think anything of it.   Then after about 20 minutes or so the wine kicked in.  All of a sudden this quiet woman was a machine gun of verbage.  She began talking out of the blue and could not stop.  I just listened.   She started ‘venting’ a bit.  She was struggling with a situation, but I was taken back a bit by her conclusions for remedy.  That’s where the contemplation begins.

She lives in New York.  She is married, and has at least one daughter.  She works full-time as does her husband.  She was raised in Minot.  Her mom passed away a few years back, and her dad still lives there alone.  He has, tragically, gotten the disorder of Alzheimer’s.  He lives in the same house she was raised in, and he stubbornly does not want to leave.  Duh, we are all like that.  He also doesn’t think he needs any help, when by her description of his condition, he clearly does.  She had spent the last week in Minot trying to get things in an orderly manner so she can live peacefully in New York, without having to worry about dad, and know he is being taken care of.  She cannot move back to Minot for him, and he will not go to New York.  He will not move into an assisted living facility, but he is allowing someone to check in on him daily.   She is in that conundrum position so many of us must face at some point.  Taking care of her family and her parents.  Unfortunately she is in a geographic quagmire as well. 

That’s when she gave me her ‘thought’ on what she thinks would be best. It would be better if he would just pass on.  It’s really time.  It would be easier for her, and much less stress.  He would be at peace, and out of harms way.  It would help at all levels.  Now I know there was some wine talking there, but there was no remorse or guilt for having this thought.  She was also carefully considering some of her words, so I am not so sure it was all just the alcohol talking.  She loves her dad, she said so.  She misses her mom a lot.  This living apart in two different cities, and his illness is not cohesive to her life, and the best thing would be if he died. 

My dad has this same illness.  My grandma had it too.  I know first hand what this is all about.  I worry about my mom as the main care giver, because she is older too and this puts a lot of stress on her.  My dad is still working a part-time job, but is loosing responsiblity more and more as his illness progresses.  He will probably not have a job a year from now.  He is physically healthy, no doubt about it.  He is stubborn, doesn’t want to have any help, and does not want to be in any type of home.   The bottom line is he is still my dad, part of our family, and I want him to live happy and healthy.  I don’t want him to die, although I know some day he will as we all will.  I also don’t want my mom’s health to be impacted from the stress of care-taking him.  It is a pickle.  I want the best for both my parents, as do my siblings.  I think we would all do anything we can to help them, now and in the future. 

So there it is.  I know my reaction to a similar situation is to love, take care of, protect, and hold on.  Her reaction is I love you dad, but enough is enough.  I want to jump on that instantly and say how awful she is being,  selfish, and cruel.  But looking at her position, as it differs from mine, I can understand where she see’s that as a relief some day.  I am struggling with her wishing it to happen.  That her heart and head has taken her to that conclusion.  I think she is being wrong in her thought process, but I understand her wanting relief from a very serious struggle.  It’s weird.  I have sympathy and pity, shock and understanding, anger and compassion all rolled together. 

I admire my mother and her devotion and hard work.  Her kind heart and giving spirit.  I am grateful for the lessons she teaches me still today through her good actions.  She loves me, and I love her.  As well I love my dad.  I do not want to think of a time when I won’t have them with me.

This trip my experience was unusual.  It definitely shut me up and made me think.  I am still not so sure where to land on this.  Perhaps God‘s Grace for her family and his Peace for her heart is a good prayer.